As I blogged, Brad started to "stim" as he approached his third birthday. That trajectory has continued. Lots of spinning and flapping, and lately he puts his finger on his nose when he talks - probably not a stim but quirky nonetheless. In any event, I regard stimming as a trait, not a symptom. I'm taking notice of it for the sake of taking notice of it, not to complain.
Also, he's memorized a lot of math. See, his grandmother gave him a kiddie laptop for Chanukah. Both of the boys received the same gift (although Jeremy's is slightly more advanced), but Brad has become attached to his while Jeremy's is collecting dust. No exagerration, he's memorized how to add or subtract any two numbers under 20. He can identify numbers up to 200. And it doesn't end when he puts down the laptop; he likes to recite it.
Anyway, a certain lightbulb has gone on. In the early days, I noted that some autism moms were defensive about their children - prompted by those looks from strangers. I didn't understand this last year, but I get that now. I've even received a few remarks from friends that have rubbed me the wrong way. Since I'm not anonymous, I won't elaborate. But suffice it to say, that lightbulb has gone on for me now.
Alas, a question for my sage readers: is there a tactful way to tell some one to STFU???